March 10, 2005

More insight into the inner world of Gidget...

Ok, so I got suckered into another personality test, which also analyzes my "love style". Here's what came of that. I've italicized the sentences I think are very much on the mark. lol

As an Individualist, you stand out as your own person—imaginative, curious, shrewd, introspective, and filled with surprises. You're a free spirit. You've chosen your own path in life and don't do things simply to please other people. You're creative, intelligent, and opinionated. This isn't always a popular combination! Some misinterpret your insight and independence; they may see you as stubborn and a little snobbish. It's true you're a natural skeptic and critic. You're often more in tune with what's wrong in a situation than what's right. You've probably gravitated toward jobs and hobbies where you can investigate, analyze, and solve problems. The challenge is being able to turn off that "critical eye." Skepticism and doubt are great tools at work, but they can be destructive in your personal life. Fortunately, your quirky take on life can be very attractive. You often say and do the unexpected, which makes you fun and exciting to be around. You're very selective about who you share your life with. The lucky few find a very open and compassionate friend, who gives without condition. Lovers discover a very sensual person who is comfortable with their body. Individualists have a knack for innovation. Like pioneers, you have the potential to chart a new course and break new ground in your career and community. Not everyone will appreciate it, but you're a true original.

Passionates have a great capacity to love. When you connect with someone it's immediate, intense, and on multiple levels— mental, emotional, spiritual, and sexual. You realize that sometimes love can be brief and other times lifelong. So, you try to enjoy love, avoid the urge to control it, and just see where it takes you. You trust your instincts and know exactly who you find attractive and what turns you on. No matter how nice a man may be, if there's no passion in your first kiss, it's probably not going to work out. Your approach to love can change over time. Physical passion may become less crucial and commitment may become more important. However, for now your "style" of loving has these common features:
You're looking for a very close, intimate relationship. You want to share the most important aspects of your life with him and not feel like you have to hold things back. This means knowing about each other's pasts, at least about what could impact your relationship. Most importantly, though, you should be very open and honest about your life now. If you love him, you'll want to know about his hopes and dreams and try to help make them come true. Love means sharing your life completely with someone. His friends and family become your friends and family, and vice versa. Love requires sacrifice, and at times this means giving up parts of your own life so you can share a life together. Love and sexual infatuation are two very different things from your point of view. If you really love each other, you should be willing to wait a while before having sex. Sexual passion is fun, but the excitement tends to wane over time. Eventually, affection and companionship are as (if not more) important as sex. When you're in love, you'll eventually want to make a commitment to each other. Neither partner should be kept waiting indefinitely. Yet at the same time, rushing into a commitment only adds to the pressure of forming a relationship. When you're ready to commit, both partners will know it and be happy about it.

My Biggest Challenge: How can you keep your critical nature from consuming your life?

Individualists are always watching out for new problems that could come up. You're a natural problem solver. So you're certainly prepared to handle any obstacle.
Unfortunately, staying constantly on guard can heighten your suspicion of other people and lead you to assume the worst. Over time, this hyper-vigilance can make you quick to get angry and blame other people before you know all the facts.
This same critical nature can also easily turn its focus on you. You can be excessively hard on yourself and take responsibility for problems that are out of your control. Your critical nature is a gift, but like all talents it needs to be guided and properly directed in order to be useful. Individualists are not into fads or pop-psychology, but you're still a believer in ongoing self-improvement. Some areas of your life that you may want to focus on include:
You can be an approval junkie. You want others to recognize and appreciate your accomplishments and the sacrifices you make for them. Unfortunately, most people either ignore or take for granted what you give. It sounds cliché, but the only one who can satisfy your need for approval is you. Try taking time each day to feel pride in what you've done. Appreciate yourself even when others don't or can't.
It's easy for you to escape into your own inner world. At times it can be easier to ignore real world problems and slip into your daydreams. You may find balance by using your fantasy life to imagine ways around your real world obstacles. Perhaps your mind is showing you a path out of your troubles if you can read the symbols. It's hard to trust other people completely. It's even harder for you to let yourself depend on them. The key is taking it slowly. Gradually open up and let yourself rely on other people. Relationships have to keep growing. So you may have to push yourself beyond what you're comfortable with to let your life be truly interconnected with other people.

What a hoot!

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